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Dating advice that women should ignore The internet is awash with dating advice for women. Besides cat videos and baby photos, it seems to be the #1 topic online.
With so much available it can be hard to truly understand what is right and what is wrong, especially as a lot of the information you find on the web can be contradictory! We will not take on the gargantuan task of setting the record straight on all of it but here are some bits of advice you have surely come across and which you will do well to completely ignore.
Don’t look for a man, he will find you
If it was only this easy…Please, if being in a relationship is important to you, we urge you to be proactive and take it upon yourself to find the right man. If not, you may end up waiting for Mr Perfect for your entire life. There are too many singles who wish very much to have a Significant Other but have not changed anything about their lives (for example attending singles events, spending time with new social circles, or speaking to strangers who look like their type) to make that wish come true. Instead, they hope and dream they will find the right person serendipitously. If it’s a priority at this stage in your life – why leave it to chance?
He should pay for the first date
Traditionally, the first date has been a bona fide date and the man paid. Nowadays, with online platforms and apps making it so easy to fill up your diary with dates (and people doing just that), the first date isn’t a proper first date but an introductory meeting of sorts during which time both parties vet one another. An offer by him to pay is nice but it shouldn’t be considered a deal-breaker if he doesn’t. Keep in mind in Match.com’s Singles in America survey, 71% of men like it when a woman offers to split the bill (which, of course, doesn’t always mean they will let you).
If he doesn’t send you a text within 24hrs he’s not interested
With so much of today’s communication being done by text, we each have a set of best practices for texting etiquette. However, remember that each person has a different notion of what is ‘the right thing to do’ because it is completely subjective and based on what we have each experienced.
Women who are too strict with their texting guidelines are not doing themselves any favours. For example, some women say texting back immediately shows too much eagerness but, on the other side of the spectrum, there are women who say if he doesn’t send a message or call by the following day he hasn’t got any manners. You may consider your texting etiquette is the most reasonable but, just like beauty, it is subjective. When it comes to texting, consider that women are more expressive than men and a one-word answer from him doesn’t only imply lack of interest.
He needs to know everything about you
We do believe that honesty is the best policy, however, a good sense of timing is essential. There is no need to put all of your cards on the table on your first date. By the same token, you are not doing yourselves any favours if you are asking your date very personal questions on the first few meetings. Topics to steer clear on the first date include previous relationships or anything you consider or think your date will consider, intimate (e.g. sex, money, past traumatic experiences).
You are too good for him
What does this even mean?! If you are compatible, he treats you with respect, and the relationship makes you a better person, our suggestion is to keep it going. Don’t let something like social status, looks or past experience keep you from someone worthwhile.
Happy Dating xxx
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