Overcoming the Fear of Being Single Forever: Embracing Joyful Independence and Self-Discovery

We don’t realize how often we hold ourselves back by holding on to everything.

Letting go is not giving up. Letting go is surrendering any needless attachments to particular outcomes and situations. Surrender means showing up in your life with the intention to be your best, and to do the best you know how, without expecting life to be ideal. Have goals, have dreams, take purposeful action, and build solid relationships, but detach from what life must look like every step of the way.

The energy of someone aspiring to create something wonderful today, teamed with a healthy balance of surrender, is far more effective than someone determined to create outcomes with a desperate must-have mentality. Surrender brings inner calmness, awareness, and understanding. And lest we forget that our outer lives are a reflection of our inner state of being.

Thus, take a moment to remind yourself of some heavy things most of us attach to long after it’s time to let go, so you can loosen your grip on them as you move forward…

1. The expectation of how things “should” be.

Try to use frustration and inconvenience to motivate you rather than annoy you today. You are in control of the way you look at life. Instead of getting angry, find the lesson. In place of envy, feel admiration. In place of worry, take action. In place of doubt, have faith. Remember that your response is always more powerful than your present circumstance. A small part of your life is decided by completely uncontrollable circumstances, while the vast majority of your life is decided by your responses. Where you ultimately end up is heavily dependent on how you play the hands you’ve been dealt.

2. The way things once were.

You’re not the same person you were a year ago, a month ago, or even a week ago. You’re always learning and growing, and life is always evolving. Even though you can’t control everything that happens, you can control your attitude about what happens. And in doing so, you will gradually master change rather than allowing it to master you. So be humble today. Be teachable. The world is bigger than your view of the world. There’s always room for a fresh idea or a next step. But first you must accept the fact that things may never go back to how they used to be, and that this ending is really a new beginning.

3. Old mistakes and errors in judgment.

Forgive yourself for the bad decisions you’ve made in the past, for the times you lacked understanding, for the choices that accidentally hurt others and yourself. Forgive yourself, for being young and reckless. These are all vital lessons. And what matters most right now is your willingness to grow from them.

4. The need to control everything.

Be selective with your energy today. If you can fix a problem, fix it. If you can’t, then accept it and change your thoughts about it. Whatever you do, don’t attempt to invest more energy than you have, tripping over something behind you or something that only exists inside your head. Truth be told, some of the most powerful moments in life happen when you find the courage to let go of what can’t be changed. Because when you are no longer able to change a situation, you are challenged to change yourself — to grow beyond the unchangeable. And that changes everything.

5. Fantasies of a perfect path, or time to begin.

Too often we waste our time waiting for a path to appear, but it never does. Because we forget that paths are made by walking, not waiting. And we forget that there’s absolutely nothing about our present circumstances that prevents us from making progress again, one tiny step at a time.

6. The desire for quick and easy results.

Everything gets a bit hard and uncomfortable when it’s time to change. That’s just a part of the growth process. Things will get better, one step at a time. And keep in mind that your effort is never wasted, even when it leads to disappointing results. For it always makes you stronger, more educated, and more experienced. So when the going gets tough, be patient and keep going. Just because you are struggling does not mean you are failing. Every great success requires some kind of worthy struggle to get there.

7. Self-doubt.

Every difficult life situation can be an excuse for hopelessness or an opportunity for growth, depending on what you choose to do with it in the present. And in the midst of particularly hard days when I feel that I can’t endure, I try to remind myself that my track record for getting through hard days is 100% so far. The same is true for YOU. We have what it takes! (Note: Angel and I discuss this further in the Adversity chapter of “1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently”.)

8. Daily relationships that make us feel less like ourselves.

Let others take you as you are, or not at all. Speak your truth even if your voice shakes. By being yourself you put something beautiful into the world that was not there before. And in the long run it’s wiser to lose someone over being who you are, than it is to keep them by being someone you’re not. Because it’s easier to fill an empty space in your life where someone else used to be, than it is to fill the empty space inside yourself where YOU used to be.

9. Old life chapters that are still lingering half-open.

You’re going to mingle with a lot of people in your lifetime. You’re going to have first kisses you feel all the way down to your toes and think “Oh my gosh, I love him,” but really you just loved the kiss. You’re going to meet a friend you think you will know forever, but then something will change and you two will go your separate ways. You’re going to explore different parts of your life with different people who aren’t in it for the long haul, and that isn’t a bad thing. Life is a series of stories, and the way our stories intersect is remarkable. Sometimes people are in our lives for the whole story. Sometimes they are just a short chapter or two. It takes a brave person to know when that chapter is over, and then to turn the page. Be brave! Embrace your goodbyes, because almost every “goodbye” you receive in life sets you up for the next “hello.”

10. The belief that we always need more than we have.

We don’t always need more — we need appreciation. Because we often take for granted the very things that most deserve our attention and gratitude. How often do you pause to appreciate your life just the way it is? Look around right now, and be thankful… for your health, your family, your work, your comforts, your home. Nothing lasts forever. (Note: “The Good Morning Journal: Powerful Prompts & Reflections to Start Every Day” is a great tool for this kind of perspective shift.)

How to practice letting go if life tests you today.

Reflecting on the reminders above can be incredibly grounding, but what can you actively do to let go when the immediate tension inside you is spiraling?

Here’s a brief outline of some initial steps Angel and I personally take (and often recommend to our coaching clients and event attendees) to cope with the immediate tension that arises from disappointing outcomes in our lives:

• Acknowledge the tension inside you. — If you notice yourself getting angry and flustered, it’s a sign that you need to pause, take a deep breath, and practice the remaining steps.
• Resist the urge to act in haste. — The greatest harm comes whenever you act out of anger — actions that might include giving up too soon, consuming unhealthy substances, or even attacking someone else. So whenever you notice anger building up inside you, try not to take any form of destructive action. Instead, turn inward and mindfully assess whatever it is that’s arising.
• Sit with your feelings, and give them space. — Turn directly towards the tension you feel, and just be a witness. See it as something that’s passing through you, but is NOT YOU. It’s a feeling, a dark cloud passing across a vast sky, not a permanent fixture. Treat it that way. Instead of obsessing yourself with the dark cloud’s presence, try to broaden your perspective — give it the space it needs to pass. Sometimes you need a little distance to see things clearly again.
• Be OK with not knowing. — Now that you’ve given yourself some necessary space, tell yourself, “I don’t know why things are this way.” And be OK with this unknowing. Give yourself full permission to not have concrete answers in this moment. What would it be like to allow this moment to unfold without knowing? What is it like to not know what’s going on in the hearts and minds of others? What is it like to not know how to respond to life’s chaos? What is it like to be here right now, without jumping to conclusions?

The bottom line is that when life dishes you a harsh dose of reality, the best first steps involve sitting silently and witnessing the thoughts passing through you. Just witnessing at first, not interfering and not even judging, because by judging too rapidly you have lost the pure witness. The moment you rush to say, “this is absolutely terrible” or “things should be different,” you have already jumped head first into the chaos.

It takes practice to create a gap between the witnessing of thoughts and your response to them. Once the gap is there though, you are in for a great surprise — it becomes evident that you are not the thoughts themselves, nor the tension and chaos influencing them. You are the witness, a watcher, who’s capable of letting go, changing your mindset, and rising above the turmoil.

Now it’s your turn!

Yes it’s your turn to breathe deep, to be present, and to remind yourself that every day is a series of a million tiny miracles. So just do your best to see them today. See how inner peace comes with letting go of what you assume your journey is supposed to be like, and sincerely accepting it for everything that it is…

But before you go, please leave Angel and me a comment below and let us know what you think of this essay. Your feedback is important to us.

Which one of the points above resonated the most today?

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There I was, eating cereal and watching a CNN documentary about Kobe Bryant—yes, I mix deep life reflection with Raisin Bran—when his old speech teacher said something that made me pause mid-chew. He described Kobe’s approach to life as giving everything—heart, soul, and body—to his craft. No halfway. Just all in.

I sat there thinking, “Yes! That’s it!” That’s the very thing I try to convey to my students in class, usually while making wild arm gestures and accidentally knocking over a marker cup. I believe in that philosophy with every fiber of my chalk-dusted being.

High Risk, Deep Roots

But here’s the deal: it’s also terrifying.

This idea of going all in on your calling—it sounds noble and exciting and worthy of a motivational poster—but the truth is, it’s a gamble. A high-stakes, heart-first kind of gamble. Especially today.

I mean, the ancient world totally backed this idea. Aristotle called it arete—excellence as a way of life. The Stoics preached about inner strength, Japanese samurai gave us Bushidō, and every jazz musician who ever improvised their way to bliss knows the power of flow. Even athletes talk about that magical zone where time melts away and it’s just you, the court, the ball, and that buzzing sense of rightness.

Modern Metrics vs. Timeless Passion

But our modern world? Eh, not so much. Today, we value your output. Your metrics. Your monetization plan. It’s like we collectively replaced passion with performance indicators.

Don’t get me wrong—I’m not against paying the bills. I enjoy food, shelter, and the occasional streaming service. But if you’re a young person with a dream that doesn’t come with a subscription model or an app-based hustle plan? Welcome to what I call “existential whiplash.”

You’re told, “Follow your bliss!” and “Live with purpose!” But the next second someone’s asking, “Yeah, but how will you monetize that?”

This contradiction is exhausting. And it gets inside your head. You start to think, “Maybe I’m wrong to want this. Maybe I should just do something safer. Maybe dreams are for people with trust funds.”

But here’s where I get a little loud in class—yes, I stand on chairs occasionally—and say: No. Your dream is not a liability.

It’s a pulse. A heartbeat. A spark. And you owe it to yourself to explore it—even if it’s hard.

Now, I won’t sugarcoat this: you can throw your whole self into something and not get the rewards you hoped for. I’ve lived that. I’ve made documentaries that reached small audiences. I’ve written things I thought would change the world and heard nothing but crickets. I’ve built programs that vanished when the grant money dried up.

But here’s the weird thing: I still wouldn’t trade it. Because in the pursuit—yes, even in the flops—I found something essential.

The Gift of Flow and Presence

Flow. Purpose. Connection.

When I was filming at dawn in a mountain village in the Philippines, or listening—really listening—to a student struggle their way into their voice, I wasn’t thinking about success. I was there. Fully. Mindfully. There’s nothing else like it.

Those moments are why we do the risky thing. Because we’re not robots. We’re not spreadsheets. We’re meaning-makers. And when we pursue something with full attention and intention, we tap into something sacred.

Still, let’s be real. In our society, even mindfulness has been commodified. There’s a subscription for calm. A brand for stillness. A market for minimalism. If I sound cynical, it’s because I’ve watched so many of my students get talked out of their deepest truths by the crushing logic of “practicality.”

Redefining Success

So, what do we do? How do we hold on to our inner compass when the GPS keeps yelling “Recalculate!” toward a safer, more profitable life?

I think it comes down to redefining what “success” really means.

I tell my students: don’t measure your life by likes, views, or even income (although, yes, make sure you eat). Measure it by the depth of your experience. By the risks you were willing to take. By the people you helped. By the moments you felt alive and grounded in something real.

A Quiet Life Can Still Be Epic

Because that’s what makes a life worth living. Not perfection. Not applause. But presence.

You can live a small-looking life with a vast inner world. You can chase something meaningful and not be famous. You can teach or paint or write or code or dance or build without needing to “go viral” to matter.

Yes, there are trade-offs. Believe me, I’ve wrestled with them. I’ve had months where I wondered if I made a mistake, if I’d be better off in a more stable career. I’ve asked myself whether it’s selfish to keep chasing ideas when I could be saving for retirement instead.

But then I remember: a life without dreams, without creative risk, without vulnerability? That would break me faster than any unpaid invoice.

This Is the Gift (and the Gamble)

To the dreamers reading this—especially the young ones, or the older ones just beginning again—I want to say this:

Don’t let the world’s cynicism shrink your vision. Stay mindful, not just in meditation, but in how you choose—how you spend your time, your energy, your attention. Live with full awareness, even when it’s hard. Especially when it’s hard.

Because that’s the gift of mindful living. Not constant calm or peace—but full contact with reality. The beauty and the fear. The creativity and the chaos. The risk and the reward.

Show Up Anyway

And maybe, just maybe, that’s the point. That life isn’t about winning. It’s about showing up fully, heart, soul, and body. Just like Kobe. Just like all of us trying to do this thing with courage.

I’m not indispensable. I’m not a guru. I’m just a guy who still gets goosebumps when a student discovers something real inside themselves. I’ve lived long enough to know dreams don’t always pay off, but they always teach you something vital—about who you are and what you care about.

And for me, that has always been enough.

About Tony Collins

Tony Collins, EdD, MFA is a documentary filmmaker, teacher, musician, writer, and consultant with forty years of experience. His work explores creative expression, scholarly rigor, and nonfiction storytelling across the USA, Central America, Asia, and the UAE. In 2025, he is self-publishing Creative Scholarship: Rethinking Evaluation in Film and New Media on Amazon, challenging traditional academic assessment in film and new media. Website: anthonycollinsfilm.com

Have you ever considered how cannabis as a tool for self-knowledge and ethical living, might help us learn more about ourselves and live with purpose?

It could be a pathway to discovering who we truly are and guiding us toward a more meaningful life.

The “weed” or cannabis philosophy explores how cannabis can be used not just recreationally or medicinally, but as a tool for deeper contemplation, ethical living, and even spiritual growth.

This philosophy draws from ancient traditions, modern spiritual practices, and existential thought, offering a nuanced perspective on the plant’s role in human life.

Cannabis and the Journey of Self-Knowledge and Ethical Living

A philosophical approach to cannabis use means integrating it thoughtfully into one’s life, guided by ethical principles and self-awareness.

This involves asking not just whether to use cannabis, but why, how much, and in what context. For example, some philosophical traditions recommend self-experimentation and careful record-keeping to understand how cannabis affects creativity, thought, and well-being.

The goal is to use cannabis in ways that align with one’s greater moral purpose or personal growth, avoiding excess and being mindful of potential dangers

“A philosophical way of life provides an ethical framework for regulating the use of cannabis. It determines whether or not you should use cannabis. It defines the purposes for which you should use it. It specifies how much you should use and how often. It alerts you to the dangers of excessive use and it tells you that some ways of using cannabis are wrong.”

Building upon this perspective, the article Using Cannabis Philosophically from the Spiritual Naturalist Society emphasizes that integrating cannabis into one’s life requires a thoughtful ethical framework.

It suggests that cannabis use should be guided by philosophical principles, ensuring that it serves as a tool for self-exploration and moral development rather than mere recreation.

Cannabis, Spirituality, and Religion

Cannabis has a long history as a spiritual aid. In ancient India, it was used as an entheogen, a substance that helps induce spiritual experiences.

Today, the Rastafari movement regards cannabis as a sacrament, believing it brings users closer to the divine and helps them see the truth of existence.

In Rastafari rituals, cannabis is smoked communally, often during “reasoning sessions” where participants discuss life and spirituality, seeking wisdom and connection.

Other religious traditions vary in their stance:

• Buddhism often discourages intoxicants, but some sects allow cannabis for medicinal or spiritual purposes, especially in Tantric or Vajrayana practices where the focus is on extracting the “pure essence” of all things, including cannabis.
• Indigenous cultures have used cannabis in healing and spiritual ceremonies, viewing it as a sacred plant with transformative properties.

Cannabis and Existential Philosophy

Cannabis is often associated with introspection and existential questioning. Its psychoactive effects can foster altered states of consciousness, leading users to contemplate life’s big questions-meaning, existence, freedom, and mortality. Many report that cannabis enhances creativity, dissolves mental barriers, and deepens appreciation for the interconnectedness of life.

Existentialist philosophers like Sartre and Camus explored the search for meaning in an absurd world. For some, cannabis provides a gateway to these existential explorations, helping individuals feel more connected to themselves and the universe, and prompting reflection on their place in the world.

Cultural Perspectives and Modern Movements

Cannabis has played a role in various cultural movements:

• Counterculture of the 1960s and 70s: Cannabis symbolized rebellion, peace, and freedom, influencing art, music, and literature.
• Artistic Expression: Many artists and writers have used cannabis to inspire creativity and challenge societal norms.
• Modern Festivals: Events like “420” and Cannabis Cups celebrate cannabis culture, community, and advocacy for legalization

Ethical and Practical Considerations

A philosophical approach to cannabis use emphasizes:

• Intention and moderation: Use cannabis mindfully, with a clear purpose and respect for its effects.
• Awareness of risks: Recognize potential for misuse or negative consequences.
• Legal and cultural context: Respect local laws and community norms regarding cannabis use

Summary Table: Cannabis Philosophy at a Glance

Final Thoughts

In essence, the cannabis philosophy is about using the plant as a tool for deeper living-whether that means spiritual growth, self-understanding, or creative exploration-while remaining mindful of its risks and respecting the ethical, cultural, and legal frameworks that surround it.

“Being free isn’t actually that easy.” ~Unknown

I’ve always been an achiever. I’ve worked hard to reach goals: I was good at school, then got a good job, and ended up making good money. My colleagues valued my clear view of the goal, my ability to break down the big task into parts that one can work on, casting it all as individual problems that one can solve. I was diligent, hard-working, and reliable. An employer’s dream employee.

At the same time, I’ve always had a wish to be “free.” Not so much from outer constraints, but from inner ones—depressive episodes, difficult feelings, painful experiences. It sounds terribly naive when you put it like that, but I guess it was a wish to live “happily ever after” at some point in the future.

And I was willing to work hard to achieve that, too.

In hindsight, it all seems clear how that was bound to fail. But working hard was the one thing I knew how to do, so I applied it to everything, including the wish for happiness, the wish for inner freedom.

I tried a range of different things and ended up connecting with Buddhism. I think what appealed to me was the clear outline of a path to achieving happiness, the methods, and the way the goal was described: enlightenment, awakening, the ultimate inner freedom. So I learned about the methods and began applying myself to them.

With my scattered mind, I sat down trying to watch my breath. With aching knees, I sat for hours repeating mantras, counting how many repetitions I “got in,” making progress toward the numeric goal of 100,000 repetitions of various things. That took years.

I think my wife noticed long before me that there was something unhealthy in my approach. She pointed out how I came down the stairs with a “forced smile” after a long meditation session. She tried to encourage me to “live.” It was no good; I wouldn’t listen.

The harder I tried to work at it, the more frustrated I became. Since I didn’t see the progress I craved— like peace of mind, like mental calm—I thought the solution was clear: I had to try harder. Devote more time to it, reduce other activities more. Retracting from the world, rather than living in it, my wife called it.

The big irony was that, in order to feel more alive, I cut myself off from life more and more. I tried to achieve inner freedom by applying the same habitual patterns that governed my life: striving hard, unrelentingly.

I once saw a postcard with the drawing of a parrot walking out of its birdcage, while wearing a small birdcage like a helmet around its head. The words on the card said, “Being free isn’t actually that easy.” I think it summarizes very well how I was trapped trying to be free.

When my tenacious striving ended up threatening my marriage, I sought help from a therapist, and that’s when things started to change.

I became aware of the pattern I was caught in. The narrow-mindedness of feeling that I had to achieve something big. The unspoken wish that one day, someone would tap me on the shoulder and say, “Well done.” The rejection of life in the name of an abstract goal—ironically, in my case, the goal of wanting to be truly alive.

I can’t say change happened overnight, although there was this one therapy session where I had a sense that I could feel that inner truth of just being, of awareness. That felt real and true—and much more than any external rules and descriptions of a path, it has been my compass, my guiding light ever since.

What amazes me most is that for so many years, I just didn’t see the obvious: that I was applying my habitual patterns of ambition and goal-oriented striving to meditation, to the search for inner freedom. How on earth did I not see that?

Frankly, I think it’s like with the fish and the water. The joke of the old fish meeting two young fish and asking them, “How’s the water today?” and the young fish responding, “What do you mean, water?” It’s so around you, so much an integral part of your lived experience, that you don’t even notice.

After that recognition, I think the process has been gradual, and I would say it’s ongoing. The key thing is that I recognize striving as striving now. I’m in touch with the emotional tone that comes with it and have gradually learned to take it as a warning sign. Whenever I feel the narrowness of wanting to achieve, I now pause to check if I’m just digging myself into a hole again.

As a result, there is now a sense of acceptance, of acknowledging that some things cannot be achieved by willpower. That feeling alive isn’t really something you can work at. In fact, today I’d say it’s the opposite: the way to feel alive is to relax into the reality of the moment, again and again. It’s admitting to myself what’s really there, in every situation, pleasant and unpleasant. It’s breathing with the pain, cherishing the pleasant moments. Valuing the people in my life.

In short, I’ve given up on the “big goals.” I still meditate every day, but I do it differently now: I always try to work with what’s really there in that particular moment—sitting quietly with the breath on some days, working with emotions on others, maybe formulating wishes for well-being on the third day… There are so many options, and the key to making it a living practice, for me, has been to allow myself to start with what’s really there, every day anew.

If any of this rings a bell, if you feel stuck trying to live a meaningful life, here are the lessons I’m drawing from my experience.

1. Choose a direction, not a destination.

To me, owning my life is a cornerstone. Grabbing the steering wheel, deciding on my own priorities rather than simply living according to a script that’s provided from the outside. So I totally stand by that original aim of wanting to live with inner freedom.

In fact, if you don’t already have a clear sense of what you want your life to be, I strongly recommend taking some time to explore that question for yourself. There are great methods for this—reflective prompts or journal exercises that help you envision your ideal future.

I’ve realized that what matters most is the direction I’m giving to my life—not so much a specific outcome, let alone a timeline for achieving it. Attainable goals have their place with respect to the outside world, such as working toward an education or a place to live, but with respect to inner processes, I’m now convinced that you cannot force things. At the same time, my orientation in the present situation matters deeply and makes all the difference.

2. Be patient and gentle with yourself.

This is the hard part for an achiever like me. My habitual disposition is wanting to measure progress. So after I realized the dead end I had maneuvered myself into with that goal-oriented approach to meditation, it’s been an ongoing challenge. The creature of habit in me continues to want to “be good at it,” to achieve.

The process has been, and continues to be, getting to know that driven feeling and learning to actively soften it whenever I notice it. One helpful practice has been tuning into the tone of my inner voice—the one reminding me to let go of goals and relax. How friendly or harsh does it sound? And if it’s rather impatient, can I soften that too?

Suddenly, rather than chasing some goal, I’m exploring what’s really there in myself, discovering and cultivating a friendly stance every day anew.

3. Connect with your inner compass.

I’m a rational person, and I often insist on spelling out the reasons for a decision. As far as things go in the world out there, I think that’s useful, even though I tend to overdo it sometimes.

At the same time, I believe that I have an “inner compass,” which I discovered during my therapy sessions and that I find difficult to put into words. It’s a sense of whether something feels right that I can somehow feel in my body.

I value this sense as extremely precious, even though I cannot describe it well. This inner compass is the most important guiding principle for me regarding “inner” topics, which cannot always be explained through logic or reason. It’s about whether something feels healthy, whether it seems to move you in the right direction.

Tuning into this compass, even when I can’t explain it, helps me stay true to myself, no matter what situation I’m in.

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To me, the result of applying these principles has been great. I guess I won’t be enlightened any time soon, but the good thing is, I’m much happier with that now than I’ve ever been in my life.

About Marc Schröder

Marc is a software engineer and meditator of many years, trying to live a meaningful life. With his wife, a licensed psychiatric nurse, he has created the app Mindfulness to go which offers mindfulness practices applicable to everyday life. Download it today for iPhone and Android from www.mindfulness-to-go.com/en/get-the-app. As a reader of Tiny Buddha, you’ll get the first month free by entering the code “tinybuddha.”

It’s a good time to take a pause and to appreciate those special people in your life that make it all so much more positive, fun and meaningful.

And to help you with that I want to share 125 of the most inspirational, hilarious, cute and deep quotes for Friendship Day.

Use one or a couple of them in a card, a text message, a group chat or for social media like Instagram to share the love and express your gratitude for how much your best friend and friends mean to you.

Inspirational Best Friend Quotes for Friendship Day

“The most I can do for my friend is simply be his friend.”
– Henry David Thoreau

“The only way to have a friend is to be one.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

“My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me.”
– Henry Ford

“A friend is someone who makes it easy to believe in yourself.”
– Heidi Wills

“Be slow to fall into friendship; but when thou art in, continue firm and constant.”
– Socrates

“Blessed are they who have the gift of making friends, for it is one of God’s greatest gifts. It involves many things, but above all the power of going out of one’s self and appreciating what is noble and loving in another.”
– Thomas Hughes

“A single rose can be my garden… a single friend, my world.”
– Leo Buscaglia

“Don’t make friends who are comfortable to be with. Make friends who will force you to lever yourself up.”
– Thomas J. Watson

“Find a group of people who challenge and inspire you; spend a lot of time with them, and it will change your life.”
– Amy Poehler

“Anything is possible when you have the right people there to support you.”
– Misty Copeland

“When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives means the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand.”
– Henri Nouwen

“In everyone’s life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit.”
– Albert Schweitzer

“Try to be a rainbow in someone’s cloud.”
– Maya Angelou

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”
– Dale Carnegie

“The greatest gift of life is friendship, and I have received it.”
– Hubert H. Humphrey

“Since there is nothing so well worth having as friends, never lose a chance to make them.”
– Francesco Guicciardini

“The best time to make friends is before you need them.”
– Ethel Barrymore

“Getting to know new people and gaining new friends is one of life’s greatest pleasures. So conquer your fears and get out there.”
– Tony Clark

“Each new friendship can make you a new person, because it opens up new doors inside of you.”
– Kate DiCamillo

“A friend may be waiting behind a stranger’s face.”
– Maya Angelou

“Don’t be afraid of new beginnings. Don’t shy away from new people, new energy, new surroundings. Embrace new chances at happiness.”
– Billy Chapata

“For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.”
– Audrey Hepburn

“If you go looking for a friend, you’re going to find they’re very scarce. If you go out to be a friend, you’ll find them everywhere.”
– Zig Ziglar

“The kindest way of helping yourself is to find a friend.”
– Ann Kaiser Stearns

“Keep away from those who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you believe that you too can become great.”
– Mark Twain

“If you make friends with yourself you will never be alone.”
– Maxwell Maltz

Happy Friendship Day Quotes Filled With Love and Gratitude

“Let us be grateful to the people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.”
– Marcel Proust

“A friend is one who knows you and loves you just the same.”
– Elbert Hubbard

“I value the friend who for me finds time on his calendar, but I cherish the friend who for me does not consult his calendar.”
– Robert Brault

“Some people arrive and make such a beautiful impact on your life, you can barely remember what life was like without them.”
– Anna Taylor

“Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart.”
– Eleanor Roosevelt

“True friends are like diamonds – bright, beautiful, valuable, and always in style.”
– Nicole Richie

“There is nothing on this earth more to be prized than true friendship.”
– Thomas Aquinas

“Friends are the siblings God never gave us.”
– Mencius

“Life is partly what we make it, and partly what it is made by the friends we choose.”
– Tennessee Williams

“I would rather walk with a friend in the dark, than alone in the light.”
– Helen Keller

“The love that comes from friendship is the underlying facet of a happy life.”
– Chelsea Handler

“Friendship improves happiness, and abates misery, by doubling our joys, and dividing our grief.”
– Marcus Tullius Cicero

“A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.”
– Walter Winchell

“Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”
– Oprah Winfrey

“True friends are never apart, maybe in distance but never in heart.”
– Helen Keller

“The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart.”
– Elisabeth Foley

“Friendship marks a life even more deeply than love. Love risks degenerating into obsession, friendship is never anything but sharing.”
– Elie Wiesel

“I cannot even imagine where I would be today were it not for that handful of friends who have given me a heart full of joy. Let’s face it, friends make life a lot more fun.”
– Charles R. Swindoll

“Friendship is always a sweet responsibility, never an opportunity.”
– Khalil Gibran

“In the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter, for in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed.”
– Khalil Gibran

“A loyal friend laughs at your jokes when they’re not so good, and sympathizes with your problems when they’re not so bad.”
– Arnold H. Glasgow

“Growing apart doesn’t change the fact that for a long time we grew side by side; our roots will always be tangled. I’m glad for that.”
– Ally Condie

“When the world is so complicated, the simple gift of friendship is within all of our hands.”
– Maria Shriver

“A friend knows the song in my heart and sings it to me when my memory fails.”
– Donna Roberts

Funny Friendship Quotes to Share the Laughs on This Day

“A good friend will help you move. But a best friend will help you move a dead body.”
– Jim Hayes

“The statistics on sanity are that one out of every four Americans is suffering from some form of mental illness. Think of your three best friends. If they’re OK, then it’s you.”
– Rita Mae Brown

“My friends and I are crazy. That’s the only thing that keeps us sane.”
– Matt Schucker

“The capacity for friendship is God’s way of apologizing for our families.”
– Jay McInerney

“Anybody can sympathize with the sufferings of a friend, but it requires a very fine nature to sympathize with a friend’s success.”
– Oscar Wilde

“I don’t like to commit myself about heaven and hell – you see, I have friends in both places.”
– Mark Twain

“A good friend will always stab you in the front.”
– Oscar Wilde

“Most of us don’t need a psychiatric therapist as much as a friend to be silly with.”
– Robert Brault

“‘Tis the privilege of friendship to talk nonsense, and to have her nonsense respected.”
– Charles Lamb

“There is nothing better than a friend, unless it is a friend with chocolate.”
– Linda Grayson

“Friends make you smile – best friends make you giggle ’til you pee your pants.”
– Terri Guillemets

“A true friend is someone who thinks that you are a good egg even though he knows that you are slightly cracked.”
– Bernard Meltzer

“It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

“You can always tell a real friend: When you’ve made a fool of yourself, he doesn’t feel you’ve done a permanent job.”
– Laurence J. Peter

“The imaginary friends I had as a kid dropped me because their friends thought I didn’t exist.”
– Aaron Machado

“Friendship is like money, easier made than kept.”
– Samuel Butler

“One good reason to only maintain a small circle of friends is that three out of four murders are committed by people who know the victim.”
– George Carlin

“There is nothing like puking with somebody to make you into old friends.”
– Sylvia Plath

“Men kick friendship around like a football, but it doesn’t seem to crack. Women treat it like glass, and it goes to pieces.”
– Anne Morrow Lindbergh

“One sure way to lose another woman’s friendship is to try to improve her flower arrangements.”
– Marcelene Cox

“It takes your enemy and your friend, working together, to hurt you to the heart: the one to slander you and the other to get the news to you.”
– Mark Twain

“I do not want people to be very agreeable, as it saves me the trouble of liking them a great deal.”
– Jane Austen

“You find out who your real friends are when you’re involved in a scandal.”
– Elizabeth Taylor

“The holy passion of Friendship is of so sweet and steady and loyal and enduring a nature that it will last through a whole lifetime, if not asked to lend money.”
– Mark Twain

“When you’re in jail, a good friend will be trying to bail you out. A best friend will be in the cell next to you saying, ‘Damn, that was fun.’”
– Groucho Marx

Cute, Deep and Meaningful Friendship Quotes

“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one.’”
– C.S. Lewis

“The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing… not healing, not curing… that is a friend who cares.”
– Henri Nouwen

“There’s not a word yet for old friends who’ve just met.”
– Jim Henson

“If ever there is tomorrow when we’re not together… there is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. But the most important thing is, even if we’re apart… I’ll always be with you.”
– Winnie the Pooh

“Close friends are truly life’s treasures. Sometimes they know us better than we know ourselves.”
– Vincent Van Gogh

“That’s when I realized what a true friend was. Someone who would always love you – the imperfect you, the confused you, the wrong you – because that is what people are supposed to do.”
– R. J. L.

“True friendship comes when the silence between two people is comfortable.”
– David Tyson

“One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood.”
– Lucius Annaeus Seneca

“Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It’s not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything.”
– Muhammad Ali

“Real friendship, like real poetry, is extremely rare – and precious as a pearl.”
– Tahar Ben Jelloun

“A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future and accepts you just the way you are.”
– Unknown

“Sweet is the memory of distant friends! Like the mellow rays of the departing sun, it falls tenderly, yet sadly, on the heart.”
– Washington Irving

“A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow.”
– William Shakespeare

“The essence of true friendship is to make allowance for another’s little lapses.”
– David Storey

“True friends are always together in spirit.”
– L.M. Montgomery

“A friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself – and especially to feel, or not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at any moment is fine with them. That’s what real love amounts to – letting a person be what he really is.”
– Jim Morrison

“Real friendship or love is not manufactured or achieved by an act of will or intention. Friendship is always an act of recognition.”
– John O’Donohue

“She is a friend of my mind. She gather me, man. The pieces I am, she gather them and give them back to me in all the right order.”
– Toni Morrison

“But friendship is precious, not only in the shade, but in the sunshine of life, and thanks to a benevolent arrangement the greater part of life is sunshine.”
– Thomas Jefferson

“We cannot tell the precise moment when friendship is formed. As in filling a vessel drop by drop, there is at last a drop which makes it run over; so in a series of kindnesses there is at last one which makes the heart run over.”
– Ray Bradbury

“Friendship is the golden thread that ties the heart of all the world.”
– John Evelyn

“Don’t walk in front of me; I may not follow. Don’t walk behind me; I may not lead. Just walk beside me and be my friend.”
– Albert Camus

“Never leave a friend behind. Friends are all we have to get us through this life—and they are the only things from this world that we could hope to see in the next.”
– Dean Koontz

“If I had a flower for every time I thought of you… I could walk through my garden forever.”
– Alfred Tennyson

“Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation.”
– Oscar Wilde

Short Friendship Day Quotes (Great for Your Instagram)

“The best mirror is an old friend.”
– George Herbert

“Time doesn’t take away from friendship, nor does separation.”
– Tennessee Williams

“Rare as is true love, true friendship is rarer.”
– Jean de La Fontaine

“Friends are the family you choose.”
– Jess C. Scott

“It’s the friends you can call up at 4 a.m. that matter.”
– Marlene Dietrich

“Good friends are like stars. You don’t always see them, but you know they’re always there.”
– Unknown

“A good friend is like a four-leaf clover; hard to find and lucky to have.”
– Irish Proverb

“Friends are those rare people who ask how we are and then wait to hear the answer.”
– Ed Cunningham

“Friendship is a wildly underrated medication.”
– Anna Deavere Smith

“To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world.”
– Dr. Seuss

“A friend is one who overlooks your broken fence and admires the flowers in your garden.”
– Unknown

“Friendship is the only cement that will ever hold the world together.”
– Woodrow T. Wilson

“No friendship is an accident.”
– O. Henry

“A sweet friendship refreshes the soul.”
– Proverbs 27:9

“Friendship’s the wine of life.”
– Edward Young

“Friends are relatives you make for yourself.”
– Eustache Deschamps

“Best friend isn’t a person; it’s a tier.”
– Mindy Kaling

“Friends should be like books, few, but hand-selected.”
– C.J. Langenhoven

“Awards become corroded. Friends gather no dust.”
– Jesse Owens

“A faithful friend loves to the end.”
– Unknown

“Some people go to priests. Others to poetry. I to my friends.”
– Virginia Woolf

“Life was meant for good friends and great adventures.”
– Unknown

“In the cookie of life, friends are chocolate chips.”
– Salman Rushdie

“Distance means so little when someone means so much.”
– Tom McNeal

“Truly great friends are hard to find, difficult to leave, and impossible to forget.”
– G. Randolph

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Some people, it seems, merely drift through life. While others appear driven and focused.

Have you ever wondered why that is? Is it personality? Upbringing? Talent? Ambition?

There’s no doubt that those factors play a role in how each of us approach life.

But I think there is something more important, something available to all of us, that also motivates us to live intentional lives—and ultimately become the best version of ourselves.

That potential can be found in the size of the dream we choose to pursue.

You see, when the goals that we choose for ourselves are meaningful—when they matter deeply to our hearts and souls—they compel us and equip us to become better versions of ourselves. Therefore, getting clear on what is most important to us is an important step in self-development.

We can drift through life pursing nothing. We can take small steps to accomplish small goals. Or we can live each day with passion and ambition to accomplish something lasting.

There are two ways big dreams help us grow:

1. They almost always require our hardest work. And because of that, we are forced to improve and develop ourselves if we are ever going to meet them.

2. But even more important, our dreams and goals motivate us and shape us. When we pursue meaningful pursuits, work is no longer drudgery. Work becomes meaningful. Discipline and sacrifice are not activities to avoid. Our goals make them desirable—because our focus is on a prize worth giving everything for.

In that way, we don’t become better versions of ourselves by accident or because someone required us to do so. That is always a recipe for disaster. We become better because the finish line is worth becoming better for.

Unfortunately, not every dream brings out the best in us.

If the biggest goals in our lives center on items that bring only fleeting or passing or temporary happiness, they may motivate us for a bit. But in the long run, our hearts and souls scream out to us that the pursuit is empty.

Goals of accumulating money, possessions, or popularity can motivate for awhile. But often, at some point in our lives, we realize that we sold out our greatest potential for the fading trinkets of this world. When we are focused on self, comparison, leisure, or when we allow fear to dictate the size of our dreams, we end up chasing things that can never satisfy. And our development is stunted.

There’s nothing wrong with being successful in a career or becoming the best employee or boss that we can possibly become. But we sell ourselves short when our dreams stop at comfort, status, or luxury.

There are more meaningful dreams available to us:

—Raising a family that can carry your values and legacy into future generations.
—Solving problems that we see in the world.
—Loving the people around us and contributing to society in a positive way.
—Serving others, benefiting others, using our talents and gifts to help others.
—Passing on wisdom and understanding to move people forward.
—Bringing about the greatest good in the world with the one life that we have to live.

These are the kinds of dreams that change us in the long-run. They shape our mornings, afternoons, and evenings. They shape how we spend our money and our hours. They redefine fulfillment and meaning. And in so doing, they compel us to become better versions of ourselves each day and every day.

So dream bigger dreams for your life than possessions or money or status.

The bigger the dream, the better version of ourselves we become.

And everybody benefits from that.

What You Will Learn

• Mental fitness encompasses emotional resilience, cognitive sharpness, and effective stress management.
• Prioritizing mental fitness improves emotional stability and enhances personal relationships.
• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) helps identify negative thought patterns and teaches coping mechanisms.
• Goal setting is a powerful tool for maintaining focus, motivation, and accountability in your mental fitness journey.
• Engaging with communities and resources dedicated to mental fitness can provide support and enhance your understanding.

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Recap of Key Points

Here is a quick recap of the important points discussed in the article:

• Mental fitness encompasses emotional resilience, cognitive sharpness, and effective stress management.
• Emotional stability improves our ability to handle life’s challenges and enhances our relationships.
• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a valuable tool for identifying negative thoughts and developing coping mechanisms.
• Goal setting provides focus, motivation, and accountability, making it essential for mental fitness.
• Engaging with communities and resources fosters support and continuous learning for mental well-being.