Article created by: Justinas Keturka

Imagine meeting a person that catches your eye – someone whose presence is impossible to ignore, only for them to say or do something that is a total turn off.

Chances are, quite a few people have been in such a situation, or at the very least have given thought to what they consider a turn off, as they came up with plenty of examples when asked about them online. A number of netizens shared their opinions in a thread started by one member of the ‘Ask Reddit’ community, who wanted to know what things women do that men consider to be turn offs.

If you’re curious, too, you can find their two cents on the list below, where you will also find Bored Panda’s interviews with clinical psychologist, author, and mental health advocate Dr. Monica Vermani and relationship intelligence expert Railey Molinario, who were kind enough to answer a few of our questions about the role turnoffs play regarding romantic relationships.

Cause the players gonna play, play, play, play, play….And you definitely don’t want to be the one left shaking it off….do you?

Check out our jukebox! Never Again by Kelly Clarkson, Before He Cheats by Carrie Underwood….Hold Up- Beyonce!

Hang on, Queen Bey? The very voice of empowerment and strength…but yet still she claims to have attracted the wrong men. So if it even happens to Beyonce, then I guess it will happen to all of us, men included, right?

No, totally wrong! You are in charge of your own destiny, you just need to reboot your thinking. So make yourself aware of the player warning signs and never again will you find yourself nursing a broken heart, spoon deep in a Ben and Jerry’s Karamel Sutra.

Commitment-Phobe

If that’s not a word, then it should be!

Be honest, we know the drill, yet we have a habit of telling ourselves the behaviour is normal, just maybe a tad flakey or laissez-faire…hmm, putting a French spin on a commitment-phobe does not make it any more romantic!

So how long have you been dating? Three months…maybe more? Have a check what’s in the diary. If you have no plans further than tonight’s dinner, chances are it’s time to steer clear!

Meet The Parents!

If you have seen the film, you know that meeting the parents is never going to be completely comfortable the first time around! However, as long as you don’t end up milking the cat or puffing the proverbial magic dragon….in the end, it will be just fine. 

But what if you have never been invited to meet the folks or even their friends, it is not a big deal, right?

Again, wrong!!!!

If they are a keeper, they will already be thinking ahead. They want you to get on with the family and close friends because they know you will be spending a lot of time together in the near future. Christmas, weddings, maybe a special birthday…these people will become a big part of your life and they should want them to love you as much as they do!

Where did you even find this date?

The year is 2018, so by now, we all know someone who knows someone that got married to that person they met on a dating site! Yet in reality, online dating only leads to something more than a quick hook up if you dedicate a minimum of 3 hours per week swiping. Our advice… Avoid the disappointment and meet someone in real life.

Other ways to increase your chances of meeting new singles would be through work, maybe at the gym or  even through a friend. Strictly no swiping

Conversation is king….

“A little less conversation a little more action please!”! Could there be a better motto for the potential player?

The player might appear to be listening to you, but they don’t hear what you say. Their gaze maybe off-kilter, looking for the door, checking their watch or worse…. checking their phone….wondering how long before they can take you home and literally get what they came for! So why waste your breath?

There are plenty of fish in the sea who truly want to invest time in conversation, get to know you as a person and save all the intimate stuff for a later date – which there definitely will be!

The Chase…..

If you are dating a player, you might find you’re always guessing. Undoubtedly the spontaneity can be exciting!  They might whisk you away at a moment’s notice, but only when it suits them. You will never know where you truly stand and that feeling of euphoria will soon be replaced with rejection, hurt and bewilderment! 

So remember, the thrill is not in the chase, but actually in the refusal to do the running.

Enjoy meeting your new dining partners!