deep-work – Live Laugh Love Do http://livelaughlovedo.com A Super Fun Site Fri, 10 Oct 2025 02:07:09 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9 A Mom Explains How Flexible Jobs Mean “No Deep Work” http://livelaughlovedo.com/a-mom-explains-how-flexible-jobs-mean-no-deep-work/ http://livelaughlovedo.com/a-mom-explains-how-flexible-jobs-mean-no-deep-work/#respond Fri, 10 Oct 2025 02:07:09 +0000 http://livelaughlovedo.com/2025/10/10/a-mom-explains-how-flexible-jobs-mean-no-deep-work/ [ad_1]

I work from home and have pretty flexible hours — and when I tell this to anyone, they tell me I’m living the dream. But there’s a downside to this flexibility that doesn’t get talked about much: it automatically makes you the default parent, whether you like it or not.

While my partner works regular hours and goes about his day away from the home sphere, I deal with a surprising number of interruptions, from being in charge of appointments to being here for maintenance people, to taking care of pets and emergencies. These things add up! It feels like there’s something literally every day.

One of our favorite TikTok parents, @shesapaigeturner, is also a mom with a flexible job. And she set the record straight.

“I’ve always been the person in my marriage who has the more flexible job. My partner works a very rigid schedule with not a lot of flexibility. We knew that going into parenting,” she begins. “But what I didn’t realize before we got into parenting is how having the flexible job is both a blessing and a curse. You become the default for everything. For when your kids are sick, when they have a doctor’s appointment in the middle of the day, when like days like today they don’t have school.”

So true.

“While it’s amazing to not have to take PTO or not have to sacrifice sick time, it is really hard to be the person who is constantly responsible to constantly be context switching between work and kids and work and kids,” she continues. “Always going back and forth because you never get to go deep work. So it actually takes you longer to do anything.”

Yes! Getting that deeper focus and harder work done is so difficult if you’re never able to let your whole mind shift to your job and career.

“And then on top of that, it’s 9 pm at night and I’m sitting on the couch and I have my laptop with me,” she says. “I’m probably going to work until 11 pm at night. It’s great that today that I had flexibility to play with my kids between meetings, but it means I have to work at night.”

At the same time, her husband gets to clock in and out exactly once per day, while her work literally never ends, either with her job or her kids.

“Nobody calls him at work,” she explains. “He doesn’t have kids asking him for snacks at work. He doesn’t have to take a break to take care of kids at work. He gets to get his work done in 8 hours uninterrupted. And I have the entire 24 hours to just squeeze in maybe seven hours of work.”

Down in the comments, other moms chimed in.

“Moms jobs just become flexible,” a popular comment reads. “A lot of men’s jobs could be more flexible, they just don’t want it to be.”

“Thissssss. And when you’re too good at balancing, they forget that it’s not normal to be doing so many things at once,” added another mom.

“I make my husband take things on too like dr appts, conferences, sick days, etc. that make him late to work or leave early sometimes,” said one prent. “He said the guys at work judge him and I said good, that’s how we’ll change the next generation of dads. The first ones to do it will be uncomfortable but oh well.”

“Sometimes I wonder if it’s my job that’s flexible or if it’s just me,” another wrote.

It’s a good point. If moms do anything, they find a way to make things work. Perhaps instead of making one parent the flexible one, we should balance out these responsibilities more equally. Moms need to get some deep work in, too.



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Should you try a no-meeting week? http://livelaughlovedo.com/should-you-try-a-no-meeting-week/ http://livelaughlovedo.com/should-you-try-a-no-meeting-week/#respond Mon, 07 Jul 2025 06:57:55 +0000 http://livelaughlovedo.com/2025/07/07/should-you-try-a-no-meeting-week/ [ad_1]

Knowledge‑workers spend roughly one working day every week, or 23% of their time, in a meeting. The weight of the workday often prevents employees from having uninterrupted time to concentrate, causing them to extend their hours well beyond the traditional 9-to-5. 

It’s tempting for companies to embrace the appeal of “no meetings,” hoping the extra time will lead to more focused work. But does eliminating meetings actually work? 

Grace Williams, VP of Client Relations of the PR agency PANBlast, convinced her leadership team to cancel all meetings for a week. With over 20 meetings filling more than half her schedule, Grace saw a “no meetings week” as a chance to get meaningful work done while relieving some Zoom fatigue.

The result? While some employees missed social interactions and struggled with understanding workload, 92% of employees said they’d like to repeat the experiment again later that year.  

So, what’s the right move for companies?” Should they dedicate a day each week to deep work, or test a full week without meetings? And in an era of improved collaboration tools and smarter calendar management, is the real opportunity in small refinements rather than sweeping changes? 

Here, representatives from companies of all sizes share how they’re rethinking meeting culture. 

Consider one day of deep work

I brought a “No-Meeting Fridays” policy with me when I joined Tormach two years ago—the rest of the company adopted it soon after. The result? Higher productivity, no communication gaps, and a noticeable shift in morale. People use Fridays to catch up on emails, finish admin tasks, and tie up loose ends, which clears the mental clutter before the weekend. It also creates a natural incentive to finish collaborative work by Thursday, so deadlines tend to be hit earlier.

The idea came from my experience at larger companies, where Friday meetings were often canceled last-minute by leadership, throwing off your day and your mindset. It felt inefficient and frustrating, so I decided to flip that script and just eliminate the expectation of meetings altogether.

We stay connected through Microsoft Teams, and Friday has organically become a day when people share weekly wins in our channels—keeping communication flowing while still honoring deep work time. 

Heather Curtis, Director of Sales and Marketing, Tormach

Give employees tools to step out of meetings

No meeting policies and no meeting weeks should be a thing of the past thanks to AI.

Instead of an all-or-nothing approach that limits how people want to work, instead give them the tools to step out of meetings that they can miss, while still ensuring they get the information they need. It’s all infinitely more possible today.

When teams implement an AI meeting copilot, individuals naturally attend 20% fewer meetings nearly immediately, while still getting access to the content via shared meeting reports and connected enterprise search. No one even has to review meeting minutes any longer; you simply prompt your knowledge base for the information you need, and move through your day faster. 

David Shim, Cofounder and CEO, Read AI 

Anchor the week with written, public commitments

Growth requires speed, and meetings were slowing us down. So, we implemented a complete no-meeting policy for five consecutive business days. No regular standups, check-ins, or even “quick” calls. We structured it like a sprint, with each participant committing to one key project for the week and sharing it in a Slack thread Monday morning.

Output during that week doubled compared to a typical week, as measured by the number of campaigns launched and features delivered. It felt electric. However, by Friday, we realized that relationships had suffered slightly; informal collaboration and creative riffing were almost nonexistent without real-time chats.

To ensure long-term success, anchor the week with written, public commitments. At beehiiv, we require a Monday kickoff post and a Friday recap. Without that, a lack of meetings simply makes people invisible, and invisibility kills momentum faster than meetings ever could.

Edward White, Head of Growth, beehiiv

Get buy-in from the top down

Shift has implemented Deep Work Wednesdays for over a year for the entire company. The key to a successful no-meeting policy is to first achieve true buy-in from the top down. It’s often at the leadership level where schedules get busy and meeting invites get scheduled just to find the time when no one has meetings booked. 

Individual team members also look to the company’s leadership to assess how committed they should be to new company policies or changes in their workflow. The long-term success of a company’s no-meeting policy is reliant on those at the top setting the right tone and leading by example. 

Sabrina Banadyga, VP of Marketing, Shift

Be intentional about meetings

Thoughtful meeting habits aren’t about cutting things out entirely, but it is about being intentional. I’m ruthless about only attending meetings with a clear agenda and purpose. If something can be shared as ongoing communication, instead of a separate meeting, it should be. If I can empower someone to move forward without me, even better.

My advice? Lead by example. Defend your calendar, prioritize deep work, and normalize the idea that not being in every meeting can actually be a sign of a strong, empowered and trusted team, not a disengaged one.

Jean-Christophe Taunay-Bucalo (JC), President and COO at TravelPerk

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