There are too many iconic David Bowie songs to list, but if there is one that stands out as the most heartbreaking one, that would be “Letter to Hermione.” The song, from the legendary self-titled album, is a tale about a love lost, and a clear example of an artist pouring his deepest feelings into song to work through them. Bowie was going through heartbreak while making the album, and this song is what he wished he could have said to his ex, Hermione Farthingale, who he was still in love with at the time. The result was the most intense, loving, and devastating track of its time.

The Story Behind “Letter to Hermione”

When David Bowie was making his second album, his last relationship was very much on his mind, even though the concept of the album is not necessarily romance. When he wrote “Letter to Hermione,” he was processing his breakup from Hermione Farthingale, and the name of the song could not have been more literal. At the time, he was heartbroken, and he wrote a letter to his ex-girlfriend, baring his heart, but never actually sent it to her. Instead, he turned it into a song. “That’s me in a maudlin or romantic mood. I’d written her a letter, and then decided not to post it,” Bowie shared.

Bowie sings about Hermione and how he knows she’s happy with someone else, but wishes she still thought about him now and then. “He makes you laugh, he brings you out in style / He treats you well, and makes you up real fine / And when he’s strong, he’s strong for you / And when you kiss it’s something new / But did you ever call my name / Just by mistake?” It took Bowie years to get over the breakup, and he continued to write small references to her in his songs for years. Even in that same album, he found inspiration in her for songs that might not, at first sight, have anything to do with a relationship gone wrong, but that still whisper to their long-lost love.

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“Space Oddity” Was Also Inspired by Hermione

“Space Oddity” is the song that introduces the world to a famous character in the music world, Major Tom. And the idea that it was inspired by an ex-girlfriend sounds ludicrous, but it’s true. Bowie found different sources of inspiration for this song, including an iconic science fiction movie by Stanley Kubrick, 2001: A Space Odyssey. The theme of the movie, of course, impacted the idea of a space traveler, but what really got to him was “the sense of isolation,” something he could absolutely relate to at the time, going through heartbreak.

But when it came to writing Major Tom, it was his love that gave him the idea. “It was Hermione who got me writing for and on a specific person,” he explained. There is some kind of connection Bowie found between Hermione and space. Somehow, they evoked the same feeling, as he, two years later, referenced her again in “Life on Mars?” as “the girl with the mousy hair.”

Of course, Bowie eventually moved on with his life and went on to have a happy marriage with a woman he stayed with until he passed away in 2016. Shortly after he died, the Daily Mail reached out to Hermione to ask about her time with David Bowie, and she responded with great class and grace. “Our time together was very precious, and it’s nobody’s business except ours,” she stated. “I have spent all these years not speaking about me and him, so why should I start now? I want to remain true to what he always appreciated about me, which was that I never spoke about him and never kissed and told.”

The relationship might have ended in heartbreak, but both Bowie and Hermione moved on and treasured their time together. And, as an added bonus, the world got some incredible songs out of it.

You Can Never Hear ‘I Love You’ Enough

There is something almost embarrassingly simple about those three words, yet they carry the weight of entire lifetimes. You can be 6 or 96, married fifty years or on a third date, a parent or a child or a friend — and still, when someone looks you in the eye and says “I love you,” the world tilts a little. The air feels cleaner. The colors get brighter. Your shoulders drop two inches without permission.

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We act like love is a finite resource we have to ration. We wait for the “perfect moment.” We worry we’ll wear the phrase out. We convince ourselves the other person “already knows.” But here’s the truth no one tells you loudly enough: you can never hear “I love you” too many times. Not once. Not ever.

The Science Agrees (Because Of Course It Does)

Researchers at Penn State and the University of California asked couples to increase how often they expressed affection verbally. The result? Higher relationship satisfaction, lower stress hormones, even improved immune function. Another study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that people chronically underestimate how much their “I love you” means to the recipient — by about 50%.

We think it’s no big deal to say it. The person hearing it feels like they just won the emotional lottery.

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My Own Wake-Up Call

A few years ago my dad had a heart scare. Nothing catastrophic in the end, thank God, but serious enough for a midnight ER visit. I sat next to his bed at 3 a.m. while machines beeped and he drifted in and out. In one lucid moment he grabbed my hand, looked me dead in the eye, and said, “You know I love you, right?”

I laughed through tears and said, “Dad, you tell me every single time we talk.” He squeezed harder. “Good. Because I’m never going to stop.”

He’s fine now. But I still think about that moment every time I’m tempted to end a call with “talk soon” instead of “I love you.” I will never regret the hundreds of times I’ve said it to him. I would regret the one time I didn’t.

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The Lies We Tell Ourselves About Saying It “Too Much”

• “They already know.” → Knowing and hearing are different nervous systems entirely.
• “It loses meaning if I say it all the time.” → It doesn’t. It becomes the baseline melody of your relationship instead of a rare solo.
• “I’m not a mushy person.” → Cool. Say it anyway. Love isn’t a personality type; it’s a verb.
• “I’ll say it when it really matters.” → Every ordinary Tuesday matters.

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How to Say It More (Without Feeling Cheesy)

1. Make it tiny and constant Text it when they’re in a boring meeting. Whisper it while they’re brushing their teeth. Slip it into the middle of an argument (“I’m furious right now and I love you so much”).
2. Say it when it’s hard The real magic happens on the days you don’t particularly feel warm fuzzies. That’s when it becomes bulletproof.
3. Say it to your kids until they roll their eyes And then say it some more. The eye-rolling is just evidence it’s working.

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4. Say it to your friends Try it once. Watch what happens.
5. Say it to yourself in the mirror Yes, really. The first few times will feel ridiculous. By the tenth time you’ll believe it.

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A Few Real-Life Examples That Broke Me (In the Best Way)

• The husband who texts his wife “I love you” every night at 10:17 p.m. — the exact time they met twenty-three years ago.
• The college student whose dad ends every call with “Drive safe, I love you” — she thought it was annoying until she studied abroad and it became her lifeline.
• The 87-year-old widow who still says “I love you” to her late husband’s photo every night before bed. “He can hear me,” she says. “And even if he can’t, I can.”

The Days You’ll Wish You’d Said It One More Time

The last conversation before the accident. The phone call you meant to return tomorrow. The ordinary goodbye that turned out to be final.

We don’t get warnings. We get Mondays that feel eternal and then suddenly don’t.

So Here’s Your Permission Slip

Say it in the carpool line. Say it over burnt toast. Say it when they’re annoying the hell out of you. Say it when they’re asleep and can’t even hear you — say it anyway.

Because you can never hear “I love you” enough. And trust me — you can never say it enough either.

Drop an below if you’re going to tell someone you love them today. (And then actually go do it. I’ll wait.)

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The overarching question I took away from the film was “How do you love somebody that is loved by everybody?” So I wanted to ask you both, what are the special ways that you show somebody love?

George: Oh, that’s a very sweet thing.

Adam: Tenderly.

George: Money, usually, I just give them money, haha.

Adam: Cash and tenderness. You know coddling, cuddling, holding

George: *hugs Adam* Come here, I love you, buddy. Haha, I think it’s a very nice question because there are a million ways to show love and working with Adam every day, he would come on to the set and say, “Hey George, I love you.”

Adam: That is true.

George: It’s a really warm, kind thing, which makes everybody on the set feel specia,l and it’s a beautiful quality.

Adam: We do love each other, and I meant it daily.

George: You meant it most of the time, there were a couple of times…

Adam: There were three days in particular when Georgey was in one of his moods…

Well, you can never hear I love you enough! 

George: I agree, I love you, buddy.

Adam: I love you, man.

What Is Love?

Love is a feeling that can be expressed in many different ways. It can be communicated through words, actions and behaviors. It is a deep feeling of affection and caring for another person. It is a necessary part of relationships, but in and of itself not enough to sustain relationships through the trials and tribulations of life. 

Expression of Love

There has been a lot of focus on love and its expression. People show love by being affectionate, doing nice things for one another, showing their partner care, and telling them how much they mean to them. 

People receive love in different ways as well. Some people love to receive compliments and affection. Others prefer when their partner cooks dinner and does the dishes for them. Because there is so much variation in how people express and receive love, there can be a disconnect in relationships. What if one partner feels loved when their partner plans a getaway weekend for them, while the other expresses love by doing the laundry and baking a cake? 

Reasons for Differences

Like with most relationship issues, the reason for differences usually predate the relationship, originating from childhood. Here are some common reasons:

• How you were raised
• The way your parents showed you love
• How your parents expressed love to one another 
• Relationships with your friends 
• What you experienced in past relationships
• Your individual personality. 

Love Mismatch 

When there is a difference between how your partner expresses love and how you like to receive love, there is a mismatch. This type of mismatch can lead to misunderstandings and conflict. One partner might feel unappreciated and the other may feel misunderstood. Let’s say your husband goes out and buys an expensive necklace with your birthstone for your birthday. But you don’t wear a lot of jewelry and you are stressed about finances. When you receive it, you immediately think, I won’t wear this. What he spent on the necklace could have paid off the credit card bill. Your husband sees your face and feels badly. He might think I can never make her happy! Or she doesn’t appreciate the effort I make.

So this is where the difference between love and emotional connection comes into play. 

Emotional Connection

Emotional connection is a deep bond between two people based on trust, commitment and a strong friendship. It is an intimacy that goes beyond love where your partner’s wellbeing is not just important to you but a part of how you think and what you consider as you move through your daily life.

What Does Emotional Connection Look Like?

• It begins with understanding your partner’s current world.
• What are they worried about?
• Who are their close friends?
• What are they looking forward to?
• How is their work?

So let’s go back to the scenario of the necklace for your birthday. If your husband had known that you were currently worried about money, he might have taken that into consideration when buying your birthday gift. If he paid attention to the fact that you wanted a day off from cooking and planning, he might have made the dinner plans. He can still give you a piece of jewelry so that he feels like he is expressing his love, but it could have been something less expensive and more meaningful.

This way you would both feel like you were giving and receiving love,  and that it was appreciated by one another. You can see how this one small example can have different variations throughout your daily life, resulting in hurt feelings, misunderstandings and eventually resentment. This is not from an absence of love but rather a lack of understanding that comes from a true emotional connection.

Open-Ended Questions

One of the strongest predictors of lasting intimacy is how well partners stay connected in each other’s inner worlds. Keeping your partner in your mind’s awareness — even when you’re apart — is fundamental to emotional connection. You are moving through life together, not living parallel lives.

You do this by asking questions to more deeply understand them on a daily basis. Ask questions that invite your partner to open up, rather than ones that only allow for a one word response. It might look like ‘Tell me about the most stressful part of your day today” vs “How was your day?” Actively inviting your partner to share their experience, thoughts and feelings with you builds connection and trust. 

Showing Appreciation

Noticing the positive things your partner does AND sharing your appreciation with them is an important part of a healthy happy relationship. It is easy to fall into a negative state of mind where you only notice the things your partner doesn’t do. That is a natural part of how the brain functions – the negativity bias. However, if you look for the positive in your environment, you will find it. When you regularly share appreciation and kindness towards your partner, you are creating a positive dynamic and feedback loop which leads to more and more positivity between the two of you.

Bids

Dr. John Gottman’s research shows that how couples handle ‘bids for connection’ is what can make or break a relationship. In fact he calls them ‘the fundamental unit of emotional communication.’ Bids for connection are those often subtle attempts to get attention from your partner. They can be verbal, nonverbal and/or a simple gesture. It is an expression of a desire to connect with your partner without actually saying “I want to connect. Pay attention to me!” 3 year olds are great at doing this with their parents, but as we get older it becomes more difficult to put ourselves in that position of vulnerability.

What Do Bids Look Like?

Bids may be thoughts, feelings, observations, opinions, or invitations. Easily recognizable verbal bids may sound like this:

• Do you want to grab a cup of coffee with me?

• Could you ask your friends if they know a good auto mechanic?

• The neighbor’s house just went up for sale.

• Did you see that news story about…?

According to Dr. Gottman, nonverbal bids include:

• Affectionate touching, such as a fun handshake, a pat, a squeeze, a kiss, a hug, or a back or shoulder rub.

• Facial expressions, such as a smile, blowing a kiss, making a silly face, or sticking out your tongue.

• Playful touching, such as tickling, bopping, wrestling, dancing, or a gentle bump or shove.

• Affiliating gestures, such as opening a door, offering a place to sit, handing over a utensil, or pointing to a shared activity or interest.

• Vocalizing, such as laughing, chuckling, grunting, sighing, or groaning in a way that invites interaction or interest.

How Do You Respond to a Bid?

There are three ways you can respond to a bid:

1. Turning towards (acknowledging and engaging with the bid)
2. Turning away (ignoring or missing the bid)
3. Turning against (rejecting the bid through argument or hostility)

Gottman found a critical difference in how happy and unhappy couples respond to bids for connection. Happy couples turned towards each other 86% of the time. Unhappy couples turned towards each other only 33% of the time.

In fact, happy couples bid all the time. Gottman found that at the dinner table, happy couples might bid as many as one hundred times in a ten-minute period! It comes down to simply paying attention to one another and valuing and feeling valued by your partner. 

The Role of Love

Falling in love with someone feels good…really good. There is an initial phase of love where hormones and neurotransmitters (including dopamine- the ‘feel good’ hormone) are released. This can cause a feeling of euphoria, intoxication….a high. This phase can last for several weeks to a couple of years at which point you will learn that while love is important, without emotional connection the relationship will likely not survive. 

Even when love is present, frequent misunderstandings or hurt feelings can create distance. Often, this stems from differing ways of expressing love. When you center your attention on building emotional connection, you begin to bridge those differences and strengthen your bond.

When you have an emotional connection, you can argue without feeling like your relationship might end. You can fight and still know that your partner loves and respects you. Emotional connection allows you to move through the inevitable challenges that will arise in your relationship and in life. You have a sense of ‘we-ness’ vs ‘me-ness’ and know that regardless of what is happening around you, you have each other’s backs. This is the difference between love and emotional connection.

Recipe for Success

Research shows that doing the following will create an emotional loving connection:

1. Know your partner’s world and hold space for it in your head and heart
2. Ask your partner questions, inviting them to share and be vulnerable with you
3. Notice the positive in your partner and let them know 
4. Turn towards your partner when they make a bid for connection
5. Make and respond to lots and lots of bids

Life is full of external stress and pressures, unknowns and challenges. In between there are lots of moments. It is what you do in these moments that will allow you to get through the hard times with your partner. When you use these moments to connect and show your partner care, you are drastically increasing your chances of having a happy, healthy relationship. Unfortunately simply loving someone doesn’t fortify your relationship in the same way.  Without the practices and moments of connection, love might exist but partners can drift apart emotionally. Love becomes an idea or an abstract, but not a shared and lived experience. So make the most of those small moments, do the little things that make a big difference to keep your love alive and have a successful relationship. 

On July 26, 2022, as I was living through a period of acute loneliness despite being a naturally solitary person, NASA reported that computer modeling of data from its Lunar Reconnaissance Orbiter (LRO) had revealed several cylindrical pits on the Moon with just the right shape to be shaded just the right amount to offer shelter from the extremes of the lunar surface. Because the Moon has no atmosphere to act as its thermostat, its temperature fluctuates dramatically as it faces and turns away from the Sun, rising to 260°F (about 127°C) in the daytime and plummeting to -280°F (about -173°C) at night. But these unique nooks, which are most likely collapsed lava tubes, are a cozy 63°F (17°C) inside — he feeling-tone of a crisp autumn day in Brooklyn, where I live. Images from the LRO suggested that these pits might unfold into caves that would make perfect sites for lunar exploration — campsites with a stable temperature, more protected from cosmic rays, solar radiation, and micrometeorites.

There is something poetic in knowing that we evolved in caves and might one day inhabit caves on another celestial body, having invented the means to get there with the imagination that bloomed over millions of years in the lonely bone cave of the mind.

There is also something poetic in knowing that as we fantasize about leaving for the Moon, the Moon is leaving us.

The prolific English astronomer Edmund Halley first began suspecting this disquieting fact in the early 18th century after analyzing ancient eclipse records. Nobody believed him — the Moon looked so steady, so unlosable. It took a quarter millennium for his theory to be vindicated: When Apollo astronauts placed mirrors on the lunar surface and when laser beams were beamed a them from Earth, it was revealed that the Moon is indeed drifting away from us, at the precise rate of 3.8 centimeters per year — more than half the rate at which a child grows.

The Moon is leaving us because of the gravitational conversation between it and the Earth: the ocean tides. The drag they cause slows down the planet’s spin rate. Because gravity binds the Moon and the Earth, as the Earth loses angular momentum, the Moon overcompensates in response; as it speeds up, it begins slipping out of our gravitational grip, slowly moving away from us.

We know this thanks to Albert Einstein’s theory of general relativity — the revelation that space is not flat, time is not absolute, and spacetime is a single fabric along the curvature of which everything, including light, moves.

I thought of Einstein, who at sixteen, lonely and introverted, began wondering about the nature of the universe by imagining himself chasing a beam of light through outer space; I thought of the poet Rainer Maria Rilke, also lonely and also dedicated to the light, who at the same time was formulating his general theory of love as “two solitudes that protect, border, and greet each other.” And I thought about how love is simply the solitary light between people, neither partitioned nor merged but shared, to light up the sliver of spacetime we have each been allotted before returning our borrowed stardust to the universe.

Somehow it all felt like a children’s book that didn’t yet exist. So I wrote it, having always believed that every good children’s book is a work of philosophy in disguise, a field guide to the mystery we are a part of and the mystery we are — in the language of children, which is the language of curiosity and unselfconscious sincerity, such books speak the most timeless truths to the truest parts of us by asking the simplest, deepest questions to help us understanding the world and understanding ourselves so that we may be more fully alive.

By one of those wrinkles in time and chance that we call luck, shortly after I sent the manuscript to my friend Claudia at Enchanted Lion Books, I received a lovely note from a stranger named Sarah Jacoby in response to my essay about Margaret Wise Brown’s complicated love with Michael Strange. Sarah told me that she too had fallen under the spell of their singular love while illustrating a picture-book biography of Margaret. I ordered it and, enchanted by Sarah’s soulful watercolors and tender creatures, spontaneously invited her to illustrate my lunar story of loneliness and love on nothing more than an instinct of creative kinship. She must have felt it too because, felicitously, she said “yes.”

And so The Coziest Place on the Moon (public library) was born.

This is how it begins:

It was on a Tuesday in July that Re woke up feeling like the loneliest creature on Earth and decided to go live in the coziest place on the Moon.

At exactly 7:26 — a pretty number, a pretty hour — Re mounted a beam of light and sailed into space.

It took exactly 1.255 seconds, because light travels at the speed of dreams, to land exactly where Re wanted to land.

Across Sarah’s enchanted spacescapes, Re has a surprising encounter that takes the story to where it always wanted to go — a reckoning with how to bear our loneliness and what it really means to love.

“I think we moderns lack love,” Virginia Woolf (January 25, 1882–March 28, 1941) diagnosed us in the first year of our deadliest war.

The paradox is that when we lack something long enough, we forget what it looks like, what it means, how to recognize it when it comes along. And so we love without knowing how to love, wounding ourselves and each other.

Over and over, in her novels and her essays, in her letters and her journals, Woolf tried to locate love, to anneal it, to define it in order to reinstate it at the center of life.

“To love makes one solitary,” she wrote in Mrs. Dalloway a generation before Sylvia Plath contemplated the loneliness of love — because “nothing is so strange when one is in love… as the complete indifference of other people.”

Two years later, she set out to “throw light upon the question of love” in To the Lighthouse, to illuminate its “thousand shapes.”

Nothing, she wrote, could be “more serious… more commanding, more impressive, bearing in its bosom the seeds of death.”

Against “the heat of love, its horror, its cruelty, its scrupulosity,” she pitted the kind of love “that never attempted to clutch its object but, like the love that mathematicians bear their symbols or poets their phrases, was meant to be spread over the world and become part of the human gain.” She found it “helpful” and “exalting” to know that people could love like that.

At its best, at its truest, the experience of falling in love partakes of that exaltation, that transcendent participancy in the order of things. She captures the phase transition as her characters flood with “being in love”:

They became part of that unreal but penetrating and exciting universe which is the world seen through the eyes of love. The sky stuck to them; the birds sang through them. And what was even more exciting [was] how life, from being made up of little separate incidents which one lived one by one, became curled and whole like a wave which bore one up with it and threw one down with it, there, with a dash on the beach.

Above all, perhaps, love is a function of time and chance, time and choice — an equivalence that Woolf conjures up on the pages of Orlando, drawing on her relationship with Vita Sackville-West to compose what Vita’s son would later call “the longest and most charming love letter in literature, in which [Virginia] explores Vita, weaves her in and out of the centuries, tosses her from one sex to the other, plays with her, dresses her in furs, lace and emeralds, teases her, flirts with her, drops a veil of mist around her.” Here, to love someone is to choose them again and again day after day, century after century, as they change and morph and fluctuate across the spectrum of being, to continue to see and cherish the kernel of the person beneath the costume of personality, the soul beneath the self. In this sense, love is a revelation of the essence — “something central,” she wrote in Mrs. Dalloway, that permeates the fabric of a person, “something warm” that breaks up the surface and ripples the “cold contact” between people:

It was a sudden revelation, a tinge like a blush which one tried to check and then, as it spread, one yielded to its expansion, and rushed to the farthest verge and there quivered and felt the world come closer, swollen with some astonishing significance, some pressure of rapture, which split its thin skin and gushed and poured with an extraordinary alleviation… an illumination; a match burning in a crocus; an inner meaning almost expressed.

The great tragedy of human life is that we ask of love everything and gives us an almost; the great triumph is that we know this, know the price of the illumination, and we choose to love anyway.

Do you ever get the feeling men are incapable of saying three little words? It’s only eight letters in a very specific order but they can’t seem to sputter them out without some cajoling, a whole lot of prompting and even some wounded staring. Here’s the question I hear more often than you might think – does it mean he doesn’t love you if he isn’t saying it spontaneously?

The short answer is “no“. Hold on though! I promise this isn’t as bad as it sounds. There’s a perfectly reasonable explanation; one that might even sound more romantic than those three little words.

At the beginning of a relationship, especially one that could lead to something long-term, men are more inclined to be vocal about their feelings. During the early stage of your relationship, you should focus on improving your communication with each other so that you gain the confidence to express your feelings in different situations. Most men will recognise that they need to be upfront and honest about what they’re feeling or the relationship may simply fizzle out. So, this is the stage where they’ll be truthful about their emotions and some might even say those three words. They’ll likely say them as often as it takes for both parties to become secure in the relationship and enter what’s known as the long-term attachment phase. But after that? They won’t say them nearly as often, if at all.  

This doesn’t mean, however, that he doesn’t really love you or doesn’t enjoy the time you’re spending with each other. You’ll be able to tell from the way he acts around you and the things you do together.

For instance, you might not completely appreciate the jokes his friends find funny, but the very fact that you are spending time with the people he is closest to is a sign that he’s serious about your relationship. Equally, if he’s often physically close to you in a non-sexual way such as cuddling while you watch a film or holding hands in the street, it’s a good bet that he’s significantly attached.

There’s a famous piece set of “rules” put forward by Dr Chapman called the 5 Love Languages. These are the ways partners express their feelings – and they’re not all verbal:

• Words of affirmation
• Acts of service
• Gifts
• Quality time
• Physical touch

It’s super important to have a conversation about what sort of affection you are comfortable with. Holding hands might be your cup of tea but it may seem childish to your other half. Just remember there will always be some sort of compromise that you are both happy with. If in doubt about your partner’s feelings, spend some time considering how he’s acted towards you in the past few weeks. Has he complimented you lots but neglected to mention those three words you listen out for? Has he cooked for you or made a point of putting his phone away so you can have a proper discussion about something? Non-verbal ways of saying “I love you” can be just as potent – you just need to look out for them. Fear of rejection means that many women feel that they don’t want to reveal their newfound feelings and should, in fact, be bold enough to initiate the entire process without the expectation that it will be reciprocated in the same way. If you don’t get the response you expect, don’t worry about it because you shouldn’t need a specific response to validate your relationship.

When you look at cross-cultural research of romantic relationships, you get these very striking cultural differences. So, we all know that culture, upbringing and past experiences can mould our perceptions and expectations of romantic love in terms of what we would like to hear from our partner. London is loved for being diverse and multicultural but with that comes the opportunity for us to keep learning in a non-predictive way.

So, don’t assume that because he doesn’t say the words, he doesn’t feel it. Men are annoyingly less vocal sometimes and, while it’s something many of them are working on, women might just have to interpret the clues for themselves. The words aren’t everything, but the way he treats you and behaves is.

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“You can’t claim to love anyone if you don’t love yourself, The best way of loving a person is never for what they have but love them the way they are”

Emiola Favor.

According to militant liberal”Lust is the desire for their body while LOVE is the desire for their Soul”. Now! Are you truly in love or you’re just lusting over every woman or man that you see. As a woman are you lusting over the man because he has six packs, he’s tall, light or dark in complexion and you think that’s love. That girl or lady has curves, she’s has a big breast and big bum bum, probably she’s dark or light in complexion as well does not mean you truly love her.

Please check yourself! Ask yourself these questions:

1. Am I ready to be committed to this woman or man?
2. What if all I saw(curves, light, beauty, six packs, big boob’s) fade away, will I still love him/her?

To know the true intent or meaning of Love we have to be conversant with John 3:16. God’s love here tells a lot on what attribute love is bestowed on such as unconditional, sacrifice and lot more.

Love is caring, love is kind and it’s entails commitment, I do say to myself, how can a man love me when he’s not committed to God? How can he love me when He doesn’t love God? If a man or woman cannot be committed to God, he or she can never be to you.

Note: you’ll have your spec in a lady or man but the most important thing is that, will he or she be committed to me? Will he/she be ready to pray with me when things turns to be impossible?
How can you say you love me; when you’re not ready to sacrifice for me. John 3:16 speaks about the love of God toward Humanity for He gave his only son to the universe for the sins He knows nothing about…what a big sacrifice! God loves us and He sacrifice His only Son, if you love me, how do you make the sacrifice?

Love isn’t lust. Please key in to the source of Love (God). Stop been broken hearted and start planning to settle with perfect love that cast out fears, ego or negativity.

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