trust building – Live Laugh Love Do http://livelaughlovedo.com A Super Fun Site Fri, 05 Dec 2025 06:31:35 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9 Here’s how you can thoughtfully integrate AI on your team http://livelaughlovedo.com/heres-how-you-can-thoughtfully-integrate-ai-on-your-team-without-leaving-your-employees-behind/ http://livelaughlovedo.com/heres-how-you-can-thoughtfully-integrate-ai-on-your-team-without-leaving-your-employees-behind/#respond Mon, 16 Jun 2025 09:32:48 +0000 http://livelaughlovedo.com/2025/06/16/heres-how-you-can-thoughtfully-integrate-ai-on-your-team-without-leaving-your-employees-behind/ [ad_1]

AI is no longer a fringe technology sitting on the sidelines of innovation. It’s already influencing who gets hired, how diagnoses are made, what products we prioritize, and even which creative ideas rise to the top. But the most urgent leadership question isn’t how fast we adopt AI. It’s how deeply we integrate our humanity alongside it.

As a leadership adviser, I have worked with executives navigating complex, high-stakes transformations. The leaders who thrive in this new landscape aren’t the ones chasing every shiny new tool, nor are they the ones retreating into nostalgic resistance. They are the ones who have learned to bring more of themselves into the room: their discernment, their emotional intelligence, and their narrative insight. 

Because when machines get smarter, humans must become better stewards of meaning.

Beyond the Binary: A New Leadership Mandate

We live in a world addicted to binaries: human or machine, analog or digital, automate or resist. The future won’t be built in absolutes, according to a joint study by MIT Sloan Management Review and the Boston Consulting Group. Some 85% of companies who have implemented AI tools in their work report that it has brought them tangible business value. Yet fewer than 20% have redefined the roles and capabilities of their workforce alongside those tools. 

Technology is accelerating rapidly, while human systems are lagging behind. To close that gap, we need a new leadership lens—one that doesn’t just examine what AI can do but also asks what kind of world we’re creating with it.

Introducing the HIT Framework for Human-Integrated Thinking

AI doesn’t need to replace human thinking; it should expand it. We don’t need to out-compute machines, but we do need to out-human them. 

That starts with cultivating the very traits that make us irreplaceable: the ability to imagine, empathize, and make meaning. The HIT Framework, or Human-Integrated Thinking, is a call to action for modern leaders. It has three core capacities:

1. Humility. In the age of algorithms, humility becomes a superpower. It allows leaders to admit what they don’t know, to question machine decisions, and to build cultures where challenging the output is not just allowed but expected. 

In my work with a multinational services firm, we introduced an “AI Oversight Council” composed of technical experts, ethicists, and frontline employees. Emotional intelligence was just as important as engineering know-how. The result? More inclusive innovation and stronger decision-making accountability.

2. Imagination. AI can extrapolate based on what’s already known. But only humans can envision what has never existed. 

At Pixar, creators use AI tools to iterate on lighting and character rendering, but the heart of storytelling remains deeply human. In leadership development retreats I facilitate, we use metaphor, visual facilitation, and speculative prompts to prototype not just strategies, but alternative futures. Imagination isn’t soft; it’s structural.

3. Trust-building. AI might simulate empathy, but it can’t build trust. That requires presence, consistency, and compassion. When AI is used in areas like hiring, product design, or healthcare, the human layer must ask: What’s the emotional impact of this decision? 

In one life sciences organization I supported, a new AI initiative stalled until leaders reframed the rollout as a human experience, not a technical one. We designed storytelling rituals that allowed employees to share how the changes affected their work and their personal identity. It wasn’t about winning hearts and minds. It was about honoring them.

The Cost of Ignoring the Human Factor

Unchecked, AI systems will reinforce bias, scale inequity, and prioritize efficiency over dignity. A report from the World Economic Forum cites curiosity, emotional intelligence, and interdisciplinary collaboration as among the most critical competencies for the future of work. But how many org charts actually reward those traits? To lead in this era, executives must be able to toggle between data and emotion, logic and empathy, code and context. We need leaders who can read a spreadsheet and a room with equal fluency.

The turning point in that same life sciences company didn’t come from better code. It came when the executive team made a human shift. They stopped talking about AI in abstract terms and began reflecting on how it would change their relationships with employees, with patients, and with themselves. They invited facilitators, designers, and frontline voices into the quarterly business review. They stopped asking, “How do we implement this?” and started asking, “Who do we want to become through this?” That single question reoriented the conversation from compliance to transformation.

The story of AI isn’t finished, and it’s not being written by code alone. It’s being coauthored by the choices we make every day: how we show up, what we measure, who we include, and what kind of intelligence we prioritize. 

AI will continue to evolve, but the leaders who rise with it won’t just automate workflows; they will humanize systems, cultivate wisdom, and bring courage, imagination, and care to a world that desperately needs it. Because the real competitive edge isn’t in how fast you adapt to technology—it’s in how fully you choose to remain human.


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After studying more than 3,000 couples in his Love Lab, Dr. John Gottman has discovered that the most important issue in marriage is trust.

Can I trust you to be there for me when I’m upset?

Can I trust you to choose me over your friends?

Can I trust you to respect me?

Couples that trust each other understand that a good marriage doesn’t just happen on its own. It needs to be cultivated.

These couples express appreciation for each other. They brag about each other’s talents and achievements. They say “I love you” every day.

Even in the heat of conflict, they consider the other’s perspective. They are able to empathize with each other, even when they don’t agree, and they are there for each other during times of illness or stress.

They understand that the grass isn’t greener on the other side of the fence. As Neil Barringham says, “The grass is greener where you water it.”

Building trust

Trust is built in very small moments. In any interaction, there is a possibility of connecting with your partner or turning away from your partner.

One single moment is not that important, but if you’re consistently choosing to turn away, then trust erodes in a relationship—very gradually and very slowly.

When this happens, the story of your relationship begins to turn negative. You begin to focus on your partner’s flaws. You forget about their traits you admire and value.

Eventually you start making what researcher Caryl Rusbult calls “negative comparisons.” You start to compare your spouse to someone else, real or imagined, and you think, “I can do better.”

Once you start thinking that you can do better, then you begin a cascade of not committing to the relationship, of trashing your partner instead of cherishing them, and building resentment rather than gratitude.

Behavioral economist Dan Ariely explains this phenomenon in dating.

5 ways to invest in your relationship

Building trust and commitment requires intentional effort. Here are fives ways to invest in your relationship.

Turn Towards Bids for Connection

Bids are the building blocks of lasting love. In one study of newlywed couples in Dr. Gottman’s lab, couples that stayed together turned towards each other 86% of the time, whereas couples that eventually divorced only did it 33% of the time. That’s a big difference.

When bids fail, as they inevitably do in all relationships, seek to repair. Remember that repair attempts are the secret weapon of emotionally intelligent couples.

Flip Your Internal Script

Negative thoughts cause you to miss 50% of your partner’s bids, according to research by Robinson and Price. This makes it difficult to build trust.

Learn to separate specific relationship problems from the overall view of your partner. Make an intentional effort to replace negative thoughts with compassion and empathy.

Ritualize Cherishing

The best way to keep yourself from making “negative comparisons” is to actively cherish your partner. Get in the habit of thinking positive thoughts about each other rather than thoughts about someone else.

Think about the things you appreciate about your partner and tell them. Thanks for being so adventurous with me. You’re such an amazing cook. You’re such a great dad.

Learn to Fight Smarter

Happy couples complain without blame by talking about what they feel and what they need, not what they don’t need. They are gentle and they give their partner a recipe to be successful with them.

Schedule a weekly State of the Union meeting to discuss areas of concern in your relationship.

Create We Time

It’s easy to find excuses for not dedicating time for your relationship. We’re too busy. We work a lot. We’re always with the kids.

Find time go on dates, ask each other open-ended questions, and continue to create rituals of connection that allow you to connect emotionally. It’s the best investment you’ll ever make.

We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. Choose each other, day after day.

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