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You Can Never Hear ‘I Love You’ Enough
There is something almost embarrassingly simple about those three words, yet they carry the weight of entire lifetimes. You can be 6 or 96, married fifty years or on a third date, a parent or a child or a friend — and still, when someone looks you in the eye and says “I love you,” the world tilts a little. The air feels cleaner. The colors get brighter. Your shoulders drop two inches without permission.
We act like love is a finite resource we have to ration. We wait for the “perfect moment.” We worry we’ll wear the phrase out. We convince ourselves the other person “already knows.” But here’s the truth no one tells you loudly enough: you can never hear “I love you” too many times. Not once. Not ever.
The Science Agrees (Because Of Course It Does)
Researchers at Penn State and the University of California asked couples to increase how often they expressed affection verbally. The result? Higher relationship satisfaction, lower stress hormones, even improved immune function. Another study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that people chronically underestimate how much their “I love you” means to the recipient — by about 50%.
We think it’s no big deal to say it. The person hearing it feels like they just won the emotional lottery.
My Own Wake-Up Call
A few years ago my dad had a heart scare. Nothing catastrophic in the end, thank God, but serious enough for a midnight ER visit. I sat next to his bed at 3 a.m. while machines beeped and he drifted in and out. In one lucid moment he grabbed my hand, looked me dead in the eye, and said, “You know I love you, right?”
I laughed through tears and said, “Dad, you tell me every single time we talk.” He squeezed harder. “Good. Because I’m never going to stop.”
He’s fine now. But I still think about that moment every time I’m tempted to end a call with “talk soon” instead of “I love you.” I will never regret the hundreds of times I’ve said it to him. I would regret the one time I didn’t.
The Lies We Tell Ourselves About Saying It “Too Much”
- “They already know.” → Knowing and hearing are different nervous systems entirely.
- “It loses meaning if I say it all the time.” → It doesn’t. It becomes the baseline melody of your relationship instead of a rare solo.
- “I’m not a mushy person.” → Cool. Say it anyway. Love isn’t a personality type; it’s a verb.
- “I’ll say it when it really matters.” → Every ordinary Tuesday matters.
How to Say It More (Without Feeling Cheesy)
- Make it tiny and constant Text it when they’re in a boring meeting. Whisper it while they’re brushing their teeth. Slip it into the middle of an argument (“I’m furious right now and I love you so much”).
- Say it when it’s hard The real magic happens on the days you don’t particularly feel warm fuzzies. That’s when it becomes bulletproof.
- Say it to your kids until they roll their eyes And then say it some more. The eye-rolling is just evidence it’s working.
- Say it to your friends Try it once. Watch what happens.
- Say it to yourself in the mirror Yes, really. The first few times will feel ridiculous. By the tenth time you’ll believe it.
A Few Real-Life Examples That Broke Me (In the Best Way)
- The husband who texts his wife “I love you” every night at 10:17 p.m. — the exact time they met twenty-three years ago.
- The college student whose dad ends every call with “Drive safe, I love you” — she thought it was annoying until she studied abroad and it became her lifeline.
- The 87-year-old widow who still says “I love you” to her late husband’s photo every night before bed. “He can hear me,” she says. “And even if he can’t, I can.”
The Days You’ll Wish You’d Said It One More Time
The last conversation before the accident. The phone call you meant to return tomorrow. The ordinary goodbye that turned out to be final.
We don’t get warnings. We get Mondays that feel eternal and then suddenly don’t.
So Here’s Your Permission Slip
Say it in the carpool line. Say it over burnt toast. Say it when they’re annoying the hell out of you. Say it when they’re asleep and can’t even hear you — say it anyway.
Because you can never hear “I love you” enough. And trust me — you can never say it enough either.
Drop an ❤️ below if you’re going to tell someone you love them today. (And then actually go do it. I’ll wait.)
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P.S. If you’re reading this — yes, you — I love you. Keep going.
The overarching question I took away from the film was “How do you love somebody that is loved by everybody?” So I wanted to ask you both, what are the special ways that you show somebody love?
George: Oh, that’s a very sweet thing.
Adam: Tenderly.
George: Money, usually, I just give them money, haha.
Adam: Cash and tenderness. You know coddling, cuddling, holding
George: *hugs Adam* Come here, I love you, buddy. Haha, I think it’s a very nice question because there are a million ways to show love and working with Adam every day, he would come on to the set and say, “Hey George, I love you.”
Adam: That is true.
George: It’s a really warm, kind thing, which makes everybody on the set feel specia,l and it’s a beautiful quality.
Adam: We do love each other, and I meant it daily.
George: You meant it most of the time, there were a couple of times…
Adam: There were three days in particular when Georgey was in one of his moods…
Well, you can never hear I love you enough!
George: I agree, I love you, buddy.
Adam: I love you, man.
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